Menopause Meltdown

Dear friends and menopause survivors, today I come to you in the midst of a menopause meltdown.

Menopause has been nothing but an uphill climb.

Two of the most challenging symptoms for me have been clumsiness, and memory failure.

As I write this I can’t find a credit card I had in my hand an hour ago.

I’ve turned the entire house upside down trying to find it. I’ve turned my purse and wallet inside out.

I’ve taken everything out of my freezer and refrigerator—-yes, I said the freezer and the refrigerator.

You’d be surprised how many things end up there these days.

Adding insult to injury is that I can’t even re-trace my steps because I don’t remember what I was doing when the card was in my hand.

I know I made tacos for lunch. I can only hope the card didn’t make it into the pan.

Maybe I got a phone call. Maybe I got a text message. Maybe I had to go to the bathroom. Maybe my brain just took a break at an inconvenient time.

But whatever the reason, I can’t find it. And all I feel is defeat, frustration and upset.

This happens a lot since menopause charged into my life like a bull in a china shop.

Some days I can’t remember where I parked my car. And I’m always on the hunt for something: my keys, my underwear or my glasses–usually on my face.

The glasses, that is. Not the underwear. If those end up on my head then menopause has completely taken over.

A good day for me is when I leave the house with two matching shoes on and my lipstick on my face where it’s supposed to be.

Most women in menopause tend to be aggressive towards their husbands during this time. Some don’t even like them anymore.

(We’ll talk more about menopause divorce in another article).

Thankfully, I don’t feel that way about my husband.

But…I am re-thinking my strategy on that because when I’m in the menopause tunnel (that’s what I call it), I don’t have the patience for a 110 questions on why I thought spaghetti seemed like a good idea for dinner.

Also, I don’t have the patience for any tone I don’t recognize or a certain kind of teasing, both of which my husband did wrong at Costco over the weekend.

I truly thought I was going to end up on the news for giving him a menopause smackdown.

Thankfully, all ended well.

I still can’t find my credit card and while I can laugh a little now that I’ve written this, I’m still so bummed, because I have a purse in my shopping cart that I really need to purchase today.

Okay that’s a wrap for now. If you’re still here thank you for listening to me.

If you’re a menopause survivor I’d really love to hear from you.

What are your symptoms? How are you coping? How has menopause impacted you on an emotional level?

Speak your #menopausetruth here!

16 Comments Add yours

  1. Lovie Price says:

    It’s so good to finally find a few blogs on here that i can relate to. I have been “going through it” for about a year. I could literally FEEL my skin ( especially my face) starting to sag and the dryness ( inside & out if you get my drift) was swift and without mercy for me. How do i cope? literally one day at a time. The mood swings are intense, hot flashes unpredictable and my vanity/ego is taking huge hits. I have confidence, of course that i WILL survive but in the interim..ughhhhhhhh…

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    1. April says:

      Lovieeeeee!!!! My fellow menopause warrior! Thank you for stopping by. Yes to all of that. It’s been rough GRR. I’m working on some articles I hope will help me and every other woman. I stopped by your blog. I’m loving it! I’ll comment there, too. Is there anything you’d like to see here that you think would be useful? I hope you’ll be back again. Hugs—-April PS if you get back to social media be sure to connect.

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      1. Lovie Price says:

        i think almost ALL of it is helpful from what i can see. Mostly as it sits with me right now ( only being a year into it) dealing with the loss of my youth physically is in the fore front- both emotionally and physically. i am up & down in my exercise (walking/hiking/weight lifting) and cant seem to get the solid grip on it like in years past( for 20 years i was a faithful 4-5 night a week gym goer and attended yoga twice weekly) now the motivation seems to be waving at me from the shore and chronic pain is my full time enemy. I keep at it though…and usually manage 3 days a week.. On top of the mood swings & Just having moved, it’s been a real chore even doing that. But yeah, all of it..you are definitely on the right track and your post topics are very helpful! Kudos!

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      2. April says:

        Thank you for sharing this. I have seen a pattern of having stuff of youth come up, in myself, and in other women. I’m working on an article on that specific topic. You are definitely a hardworking proactive type and that’s inspiring m. I can relate to all of what you have said here and I know others can too. Thank you for your feedback. Thanks for sharing your tips here, too. Other readers may find those helpful. Menopause hurts (lol). Sending you good thoughts.

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  2. gifted50 says:

    Well i can relate to so much of what you are going thru…my family started scattering when I got home, I was an ogre, forgot everything, could not get out of my bed, just enough drive to get to work…and so much more. My once luscious hair😭😭

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    1. April says:

      Ha! Thank you for sharing. It can be so challenging. And boy do I miss the luscious hair! Hang in there my fellow menopause warrior!

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      1. gifted50 says:

        Love it menopause warrior…Thank you.

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  3. Claudette says:

    Bah. I take pictures of where I park the car which means I can’t lose my phone but it works about 73% of the time.

    Don’t talk to me about lost cards. Seriously, don’t even go there…😂

    I’m so miserable last few days my family is living in fear of me. I’m in perimenopause, last 6 weeks I’ve had full flow periods every 2 weeks, including during our trip to Switzerland. Ask me why I’m so bitchy lately…

    ok. Maybe better not ask.

    Boo. 😉😭😳😄

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    1. April says:

      Hey Claudette. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Those weeks of unpredictable flows are awful. Be sure to talk to your doctor about taking an iron supplement during this time. It really helped me. And yes!!! I also have to take pictures and at the very least, I write down the location of my car 😂

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      1. Claudette says:

        Actually my iron levels are fine, surprisingly but I am taking some B vitamins. 🙂

        Yes it’s a ride isn’t it. 😀

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      2. April says:

        Oh yes, I’m taking the B too. And it sure is! Happy Thursday to you!

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  4. Don’t lose hope! You will make it through the tunnel and come out the other end. You’ll still forget where you put your credit card but think of the fortune you’ll save in feminine products. And you won’t have to stick your head in the freezer anymore! *grin* And birth control will be history because all your eggs will forever go to that Great Ovarian Heaven in the sky. Life is fabulous on this side of Hormone Avenue, trust me. *smile* And as for the husband: Sex will be over the moon fantastic *blush* with a little help from Lotions-R-Us. Hang in there, tunnel traveler, you’ve got this!

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    1. April says:

      Hey Lois!! Thanks for commenting and offering encouragement!! I needed to hear this and I know I’m not alone! “Lotions-R-Us” made me laugh out loud. Helps to hear there’s a light at the end of the tunnel!!

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  5. traceyr1984 says:

    I always park in the same row, same area everywhere I go. I have a library spot, a commissary spot etc. I put my keys on a hook on the refrigerator, otherwise I would never get to go anywhere! You have the menopause tunnel, I am on the menopause rollercoaster.

    As luck would have it I am finally having my hysterectomy this week. I was having crazy bad periods, hot flashes and serious mood swings. I have fibroids and one large polyp so I couldn’t do HRT. Now I haven’t had a period in two months and my hot flashes have waned. It’s like my body knows what is coming and laughing at me. Damn hormones!

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    1. April says:

      Hey Tracey thank you for commenting and sharing your experiences. I love that you have parking spots everywhere you go. I was just saying the other day I need to do this, too. I sure hope your surgery goes well and that you feel better afterwards!!! I went to check out your blog. I see you haven’t written much. Hope to see more writing from you soon!

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