Menopause Meltdown

Dear friends and menopause survivors, today I come to you in the midst of a menopause meltdown.

Menopause has been nothing but an uphill climb.

Two of the most challenging symptoms for me have been clumsiness, and memory failure.

As I write this I can’t find a credit card I had in my hand an hour ago.

I’ve turned the entire house upside down trying to find it. I’ve turned my purse and wallet inside out.

I’ve taken everything out of my freezer and refrigerator—-yes, I said the freezer and the refrigerator.

You’d be surprised how many things end up there these days.

Adding insult to injury is that I can’t even re-trace my steps because I don’t remember what I was doing when the card was in my hand.

I know I made tacos for lunch. I can only hope the card didn’t make it into the pan.

Maybe I got a phone call. Maybe I got a text message. Maybe I had to go to the bathroom. Maybe my brain just took a break at an inconvenient time.

But whatever the reason, I can’t find it. And all I feel is defeat, frustration and upset.

This happens a lot since menopause charged into my life like a bull in a china shop.

Some days I can’t remember where I parked my car. And I’m always on the hunt for something: my keys, my underwear or my glasses–usually on my face.

The glasses, that is. Not the underwear. If those end up on my head then menopause has completely taken over.

A good day for me is when I leave the house with two matching shoes on and my lipstick on my face where it’s supposed to be.

Most women in menopause tend to be aggressive towards their husbands during this time. Some don’t even like them anymore.

(We’ll talk more about menopause divorce in another article).

Thankfully, I don’t feel that way about my husband.

But…I am re-thinking my strategy on that because when I’m in the menopause tunnel (that’s what I call it), I don’t have the patience for a 110 questions on why I thought spaghetti seemed like a good idea for dinner.

Also, I don’t have the patience for any tone I don’t recognize or a certain kind of teasing, both of which my husband did wrong at Costco over the weekend.

I truly thought I was going to end up on the news for giving him a menopause smackdown.

Thankfully, all ended well.

I still can’t find my credit card and while I can laugh a little now that I’ve written this, I’m still so bummed, because I have a purse in my shopping cart that I really need to purchase today.

Okay that’s a wrap for now. If you’re still here thank you for listening to me.

If you’re a menopause survivor I’d really love to hear from you.

What are your symptoms? How are you coping? How has menopause impacted you on an emotional level?

Speak your #menopausetruth here!

Menopause Minute: 3 ways menopause can happen to you

Welcome to Issue No 1| MenopauseMinute

Menopause. Change of life. Whatever you want to call it…it’s a natural part of a woman’s life cycle.

Not unlike puberty.

In fact, so much like puberty that I’ve coined it “midlife (or second) puberty.”

I knew I would some day be in the menopause season, but I thought I would be further along in age before I got here.

What I didn’t anticipate is that I would get to menopause via breast cancer.

Now that I’m here, I’ve discovered the information and help available to women in menopause is limited.

Even female medical professionals seem lost when I approach the topic.

In my conversations with other women I’ve learned they feel discouraged. Some said, hopeless.

The reason for this is because the symptoms can be hard on the body and include body dis-morphia, low self-esteem and hair loss.

Most women in menopause opt for some sort of hormone replacement therapy to help them through the process. That’s easy to get.

But cancer survivors need to avoid those drugs, because they can lead to more cancer.

While there are some recognizable “experts” on the market, you have to be rich, famous or both to tap into them.

They don’t take insurance.

Sadly, this is becoming more and more of a trend in medicine.

So, I decided to use my journalistic background and personal experience with menopause to start the conversation, right here!

Every Monday you’ll find a new topic or interview related to menopause. Please feel free to chime in.

Now, let’s get started with the basics.

3 ways menopause can arrive

 

  1. Medical menopause | Caused by chemotherapy or radiation 🙋🏻‍♀️ (that’s how I got my initiation).
  2. Surgical menopause | Hysterectomy that includes taking your ovaries.
  3. Natural menopause |As you approach your late 30s, your ovaries start making less estrogen and progesterone — the hormones that regulate menstruation — and your fertility declines. With each year it continues to decline to post menopause.

Come back next Monday where I’ll talk about how menopause affects our ability to sleep, and propose some ways we can help our body find rest.

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For your health information: #BeautyMadeBetter

Right now, cosmetics companies can put just about anything in their products – even chemicals associated with cancer and endocrine disruption.

Senators Dianne Feinstein (D-Calif.) and Susan Collins (R-Maine) have introduced a bill that would require cosmetics companies to prove that their products are safe before marketing them and would give the federal Food and Drug Administration the power to review risky ingredients.

S.1014 – Personal Care Products Safety Act

This bill amends the Federal Food, Drug, and Cosmetic Act to require cosmetics companies to register their facilities with the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) and to submit to the FDA cosmetic ingredient statements that include the amounts of cosmetic’s ingredients.

Companies must pay a facility registration fee based on their annual gross sales of cosmetics.

The collected fees can only be used for the cosmetic safety activities.

If you’d like to learn more about the bill click HERE

If you’d like to support the bill, click HERE for the Environmental Working Group website.

Information provided by the EWG website and congress.gov

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What do I say to someone diagnosed with cancer?

It’s breast cancer awareness month and this means you can buy anything pink. In fact, I challenge you to find something not pink during this month.

Unfortunately, though, what you can’t buy with those pink items is an education about breast cancer (or any cancer) including, prevention.

And while I’m so happy we can talk about breast cancer considering there was a time when women suffered in silence, I do think we need to do more than “pinkwash.” I think education should be the focus.

So today, let’s start with three things you can say to the newly diagnosed should you find yourself at a loss for words.

3 Simple Phrases

 

“I’m sorry”

The reality is this; there are no words of wisdom at a time like cancer. The word “cancer” alone can clear a room or a social calendar. It can render you speechless.

Saying these these seemingly little words can convey you’re concern and care without saying things that could offend. You can always go back later and say more heartwarming words once you’ve collected your thoughts.

“What can I do?”

I think these words speak volumes especially for the newly diagnosed. I remember walking out of the breast clinic the day I got my diagnosis and thinking, what comes next?

Chemotherapy is big, ugly and scary and each person has their own reaction to it. So just knowing you can count on someone to do anything for you is comforting.

“I’m gonna love you through it”

These are words plucked right out of Martina McBride’s song entitled “I’m gonna love you through it.” But they are perfect! However you say it, the best thing you can say is that you are going to be right there with them. There’s no greater gift.

 

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